I've come to think...

Have you ever watched ‘Taken’? It’s a surprisingly intense series by Steven Spielberg and features a particularly fascinating character of a little girl ‘Allie Keys’ who narrates the story…

So it’s highly melodramatic, and a bit cliché and the whole world being obsessed with Roswell 1945 is getting way too old, but certain philosophies expressed are pretty thought provoking and these are some that just stick to mind. I meant to mention one or two in yesterdays rampage against men, but sadly my net was fucked and I didn’t want to paraphrase….

About the whole concept of hope as a driving force in relation to finding love….

“People talk a lot as if the most important thing in life is to always see things for what they really are. But everything we do, every plan we make, is kind of a lie. We're closing our eyes and pretending that the day won't ever come when we won't need to make any more plans. Hope is the biggest lie there is, and it is the best. We have to keep going as if it all mattered, or else we wouldn't keep going at all.”

The next is for a friend of mine who’s having a lot of trouble putting the past behind him. We all have to move on some time, and it’s not always easy to find the motivation to make a change. Been there… maybe not quite as intensely as he is feeling the pressure, but nevertheless I have had more than a glimpse into the thought-process that can evoke.

“Sometimes the best way to move into the unknown is to take familiar steps, small steps. To do ordinary things to deal with something that is in no way ordinary. We're always going someplace new, all the time. Familiar things just let us pretend that we aren't moving into unfamiliar territory. You take those small familiar steps, and you try to be honest, not to live as if nothing had changed but still to go on with your life. But there are times when what you need is a piece of how things used to be.”

Also,

“When everything in your life is right on track, it's easy to believe that things happen for a reason; it's easy to have faith. But when things start to go wrong then it's very hard to hold on to that faith. It's hard not to wonder whose reasons these things happen for”

Which is why we ought to have a back up plan! In fact that plan doesn’t have to be of grand proportions. Sometimes it’s just about changing perspectives… deliberately ignoring certain objectives… I know it sounds pretty backward and narrow minded but sometimes you need to look to your roots and forget your own slightly controversial beliefs simply because it is selfish to continue to dream if it is hurting those who have sacrificed everything for you.

It sounds contrived but…. It’s either that or develop the poetic stance and be the man who sits in a corner thinking up philosophies and wasting away life. It might be your life but there is something seriously wrong with you if you can live with the guilt of causing so much pain to those who spend their lives dreaming for you. Maybe they ought to pursue their own hopes… but maybe you are the only vessel through which they can live their dreams. Maybe that isn’t very fair… but sometimes it’s okay to shift channels and think that perhaps that is the very least you can do for them after everything you have put them through… or life has put them through. Empathy is not such a bad thing. Life long rebellion is not necessary to finding your own identity.

“People say that when we grow up, we kick at everything we've been told, we rebel against the world our parents worked so hard to bring us into, that part of growing of is kicking at the ties that bind. But I don't think that's why we kick at all. I think we kick when we find out that our parents don't know much more about the world than we do. They don't have all the answers. We rebel when we find out that they've been lying to us all along, that there isn't any Santa Claus at all.”